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  • Vislat, my Friend

    It’s a beautiful day.  At least for Kurt Vonnegut.  As for me, I’ve still got responsibilities and my idol has died.  But considering he smoked like a chimney and still lived to 84, he did alright doing it his way.  I always wanted to meet him (or better yet take a class with him). My father knew him, so I probably could have but I guess I was intimidated.  Or maybe I wanted to be a better writer first.  Now he’ll never write the forward to my first (legitimately published) book, unless posthumously, which would be just like him.  After all he wrote his own forward under the guise of one of his characters. 

     

    I’ll just have to channel him for mine.  The book could even be a tribute to ol’ Kurt.  Something like Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead, only Kurt Vonnegut and Eugene Debs are dead. 

     

    It’s a great idea.  Maybe I’ll put it in that book I will write of great ideas (a great idea in its own right).  The title of that book was to be, I think, Visiting Conway and Other Ideas.

     

    Anyway, Vislat, Kurt (that means “see you later” in Hungarian – did I tell you I went to Hungary?)

     

    First Molly Ivans, and now Kurt Vonnegut.  Please don't tell me that trouble comes in threes.  The world will miss them.

  • You Have Forgotten Who You Are

    The Lion King. 

    I’ll tell you why we relate to it.  Mufasa doesn’t represent our father, he is the child we were that promised us he would always be there to guide us with his imagination, but isn’t because we killed him (or at least we think we did). 

    I read an article about Houdini yesterday.  They want to exhume his body to see if he really got an appendicitis from a punch in the stomach (waaaa?) or whether he may have been murdered.  I don’t need to know this, but I had to read it, because it was about Houdini, and when I was a boy, Houdini interested me.  Remember that, Dad?

    That’s who I was, in part.

    That doesn’t mean I want to take up magic as a hobby.  It just means I have forgotten who I am and I started forgetting a long long time ago. 

    If I remember who I am, I will be everything I ever wanted to be. 

    Hamlet, too is another Simba.  I hear the ghost calling, “Remember me.” (and also telling me, by the way, to kill that imposter that is now married to my wife).

    But how?  HOW do I remember who I am? 

    Well, I am a person who likes to take pictures of people, capturing who they are to me.

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    That's one thing I like to do.  Something I do.  That is one thing I can remember to do more, to be who I am.

    There are other things too that we all must do to be ourselves.  Whatever it takes, we have to make the time (paying for the time) to do the things that make us who we are.

    I think it means I have to make less money than I could.

  • Trust the Doctor

    Updates on the 5 Ks.  Writing zero.  Been sort of on the sidelines with poison ivy, although been staying up a lot, so should have been writing I guess.  More on that later.  OK.  Thought the race was at 10, it was at 9:15.  Got there late, tried to play catch up.  Did pass a couple of walkers.  Came in at about 50 minutes on the 5K (counting from 9:15 - so that counted the time I spent getting my number and my t-shirt).  Walked much of it cause my 11YO daughter wasn’t quite able to run the whole thing, but we did run at the end, and didn’t cheat too much (just a slight detour through a parking lot trying, in vain, to catch up to her grandmother who walks faster than I run).  Ran it with a severe case of poison ivy on both legs and arms.  Left leg was swollen.  It had been coming on strong since the week before.  Ran twice before the race anyway, then in the 5k.  Then to the doctor the next day.

    Let me tell you about doctors.  Don’t trust ‘em.  They’ll be prescribing you steroids which diminish your ability to fight infection, at the same time as you have an infection, then potent anti-biotics, of a whole new breed, called fluoroquinolone antibiotics will be prescribed, the one I was told to take was called Levaquin.  It was expensive, but at least I didn’t take it.  A little birdie said “remember Larium” and I decided I would see what former patients were saying about this drug.  Saved myself debilitation of the joints and tendons.  Permanent damage!!! Nice to know the doctors are doing no harm.  Nice to know they are listening to the drug companies that have a vested interest in the drugs they want prescribed.

    Really.  So I took a different antibiotic along with a steroid that diminished my ability to fight the infection (cause you can’t just stop taking those once you start) and made my leg hurt and kept me up all night for two days.  Or maybe that was the anti-histamine that they prescribed for itch, which didn’t stop any itch, and didn’t make me tired like it was supposed to.  I kept taking it and then I kept staying up.  Whaaaa?  I never had insomnia before.  It’s quite uncomfortable.

  • Visiting NY

    I have for a long time said that I wanted to visit my home town of NYC more often, not necessarily with the whole family, because that's an ordeal that's worth it once a year or maybe twice, and because they don't necessarily want to go as much as I do or see the people I want to see (old friends that they don't know).  So, the “promise” I keep making to myself, so far always broken, is that I will go to NY maybe 3 additional times a year, three because I have three kids, and that way I can take one with me each time, just for a long weekend or something.  We (all of us) recently visited NY and tried to see people, but I'm ashamed to say that I forgot about some.  So I decided to put together a list of people I didn’t want to forget.  I’m not saying that I’ll always get to see all of them, just that I don’t want it to be because I forgot.  There were 19 people or groups of people that I came up with off the top of my head.  Now, that’s a good reason to visit more often.  How many off the list did I see this last time?  7.  I tried for 9, saw 7 forgot 10.

     

  • 1K

    I wrote.  I wrote.  Finally after a 3 day drought.  I didn't write much, just 1K which was about 1 and 1/2 pages, cause I had other things to do.  I also drank a small cup of black joe yesterday, cause it wasn't doing me any good not to, but I'm back on the wagon today.  AND I RAN.  I ran this morning.  Finally, 4 days before my 5K.  I ran for about 1/2 hour, which probably was not 3 miles like I thought it would be, cause I wasn't running fast enough.  I plan to run again the day after tomorrow.  And then the race.  Look for me to be first.  I'm running with my daughter (11 years old).  I'm going to leave her in the dust.

    That's all. 

  • Make it Rhyme

    I didn't write
    at all last night
    I didn't run
    not this mornun.
    didn't drink caffeine
    Not at all since Halloween
    actually it is day four
    and my throat is feeling sore
    but if I knew it was just a symptom
    Of my coffee bean addictiom
    I would have this before bed written
    I would have in this morning ren.
    Instead of last nights potato restin'
    (in front of that damned Televistin)
    And in bed so soundly sleeping
    Dreaming dreams of what this morning.
    To wake to goals - 5000 words
    and 5, just 5 kilometerds.
    These 2s are my myriad 5 ks
    I'll need improve in the following days

  • The Threes

    Three days.  Three long days.  Three long pages.  Trouble comes in Threes.

    I wrote 3 pages again last night (YAY!).  And no coffee for three days (if I count today) nor sugar nor alcohol.  And I don't have any withdrawal symptoms (I have been drinking tea - maybe that's like my caffeine patch, but I don't get nearly as much caffeine from that).  In fact I really do feel much better.  Now all I have to do is start running.  Y'know I'm signed up for a 5K in a little over a week, and I haven't run in months.  HA HA HA.  That's so funny.  Oh, I'm going to be in trouble.

  • I wrote (again?)

    I wrote 3 pages last night.  It was hard.  By that I mean, it took a long time.  But it wasn't as hard as drudging through a full day at work.  Oh, if only I could have my youth back.  What opportunities there were to spend countless hours making no money.  But it was wasted, going through motions, doing what other people wanted me to do, or what I thought I was supposed to.  Which brings me to what else is on my mind.

    We don't choose.  I don't believe we choose, at least not much.  I don't feel like I have chosen much that has happened to me.  Now, it helps to think like that because I am often regretful, and I can stop that if I didn't really choose it.  I just went with a flow.  I followed. I mean, call me a coward, if you want, it is probably what I am, and if my kids hate me later because they were not happy and I said I didn't choose anything, and they said, "why not?", then they're right, and please forgive me.  That's just what I'll have to live with (for example).

    I am concerned they're not happy.  Probably because they complain a lot, playing me.  But I do sometimes wonder, "where's the quality time."  At least with me, I'm not saying they don't have any.  Good thing I didn't have coffee or I would really be depressed.  I'm holding up honest.  I just want to write that's all.

     

  • The Perfect Song

    He awoke at the bottom of the embankment among the trees, his car, slapped around, had come to rest probably 100 yards from the road, within the forest.  He could breath, short breaths, but it hurt.  He could not move his legs, in fact they were crushed, but he didn’t know cause he couldn’t look down.  There was a rod or some such thing through him underneath his ribs, pinning him to the seat.  His left arm was broken; he couldn’t use it to get the cell phone in that side’s pant pocket, and he wasn’t able to twist to get it with the other hand.  Only with great effort and pain, did he move his right arm to his mid-section, and felt the hot wet blood that permeated the area.  He didn’t struggle much.  Likely it hurt too much, or he just couldn’t move, but more likely, he had correctly assessed his condition and knew that he needn't bother. 

    The engine kept running after the accident, and the CD player playing - his own eclectic mix.  He could hear, acutely, this particular piece, a slow and harmonic piano sonata played by Sviatoslav Richter; the piece by Chopin, he thought, but he wasn’t sure.  He didn’t know it’s name, if it had a name (other than Opus number such and such part I) but it was so beautiful to him.  It spoke to him of who he was, who we are, what we are here for.  To struggle.  To experience.  To teach.  To be.  Who wrote it, and who played it, they knew!  Artists.  Sages.    Hearing it, he understood patience, forgiveness, courage, and strength, the latter, he perceived at last as the sum of the other attributes.  He, too, now modeled this knowledge.  All that came before, uncertainty, impatience, distraction, misdirection, mediocrity fell away.  He now would demonstrate a way to live and die with pride, courage, dignity and peace.  Those who knew him he hoped would aspire to die as well, when their times came.  He believed he could influence that.  We all influence others by the ways in which we live, he knew this now to be true.  His remaining purpose.

    The paramedics found the CD player still going, long after he had passed, a single bloody fingerprint from his right hand on the “repeat” button.  It was a Herculean effort to choose the song that would play over and over again as he died.  He focused on the task the way we focus on futures, jobs, careers, family.  He wanted it like some want to tackle Everest, or swim the English Channel.  He managed it with confidence and determination, all the while cognizant of the urgency and the deadline.  He needed to get his arm to that difficult height before the CD would go on to another less appropriate tune.  This would be his lifes work now, and he was proud of the success. 

    And he considered himself blessed.  Blessed to die in peace, and thankful that he had the perfect song to die to.  He was comfortable. He was not alone.  He had Sviatoslav, and Chopin, if it was Chopin, but what's in a name?  He wondered, would life have been preferable, if his death had consequently been less perfect?  Perhaps we live only for death.  Less relevant is how long we all take to get there.  Despite his injuries, he looked peaceful when they found him, on his face, a subtle, it seemed, smile.  Why not?  He had no responsibilities.  Nothing left to worry about.  Nothing left to do.  He had his music and his example.  The pain no longer had a purpose, and so it didn’t bother him either.  That he was strong enough to meet the challenge, too, was a source of pride.  It didn’t matter to him how long it would take to die.  It took an hour and a half.  He sat there listening to the same song for an hour and a half.  It could have taken forever for all he cared.  A minute could have been an eternity, or an eternity, a minute.  He was happy.

  • Out! Out! Rocks!

    I blogged the other day of the notion that I had lots of things going around in my head…like rocks.  Ever since I used that analogy, it has been bouncing around with the other rocks and I have finally decided, come to the conclusion that, the reason I NEED to write is to get the rocks out.  So if anyone ever asks you why you need to write, you can say, “it’s like Prometheus said, to get the rocks out.”